Everything You Need To Know About Twin Flame Relationships

From Plato’s; The Symposium:

“According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs, and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves.” “Love is born into every human being; it calls back the halves of our original nature together; it tries to make one out of two and heal the wound of human nature.”

“And so, when a person meets the half that is his very own, whatever his orientation, whether it’s to young men or not, then something wonderful happens: the two are struck from their senses by love, by a sense of belonging to one another, and by desire, and they don’t want to be separated from one another, not even for a moment……and when one of them meets the other half, the actual half of himself, whether he be a lover of youth or a lover of another sort, the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy and one will not be out of the other’s sight, as I may say, even for a moment…””

• Plato; The Symposium

My insights on the twin flame relationships come from a place of my being both part of a group of individuals which in many social circles refer to as Starseed Children, as well as that of being a twin flame myself. As such, the overarching purpose of this article, which is highlighted by the title, is do describe to you, everything that you need to know about this particular type of relationship, and soul connection. This post will act as your didactic source that articulates every aspect of the twin flame, including but not limited to, a basic definition, the defining characteristics or indicators that you are part of a twin flame relationship, the stages of this particular union, and much more. For as long as I can remember, perhaps part of characteristic to being a Starseed, which is something that I will write an entire article on that topic at some later time, I have always viewed all of life through the lens that everything is energy, and it is from this place that I hope to provide to you an original and unique perspective on this almost nearly life-altering connection, and through a journey to the highest realm of self-acceptance, understand, and ultimately love.

What Is A Twin Flame Relationship?

One of the things I perhaps admire most about this recent movement of what could be called new-age spiritualism is the way that one can easily observe how it almost directly correlates with models of modern-day physics. All life is energy, frequency, and vibration, and when thinking of the twin flame relationship, I often like to compare it to the idea that, “a particle, split into two, no matter how its pieces are separated, will always melt and combine.” Ideologies such as this one issued forth in the era associated with Einstein’s theory of relativity, both general and specific, at a time where ideas like Quantum Physics, Mechanics, and Entanglement began to emerge in the scientific community. More specifically, it refers to a type of gedankenexperiment, or thought experiment know as the EPR Paradox or Einstein-Podolsky-Rosen Paradox. Einstein and his contemporaries felt it their responsibility to note this paradox, due to the fact that it suggested that a relationship where particles ostensibly communicated with one another at speeds faster than that of the speed of light existed, which made Einstein feel that Quantum Theory was at the very least, incomplete. It is one of the most well-known exemplifications of quantum entanglement, and from it, we have received such ideas as the theory of Schrodinger’s cat. Nonetheless, it is this general idea that almost seems to be at the very crux of the twin flame relationship.

“We think we meet someone with our eyes. But we actually meet them with our soul” ― Mimi Novic

On the most rudimentary level, the twin flame relationship as a concept is perhaps one of the most powerful personifications of this fusion of particles, and in this specific case, between people and their very inner-essence; their very soul. In a popularized episode of, The Cosmic Connection: An Extraterrestrial Perspective, Carl Sagan noted that “Our Sun is a second- or third-generation star. All of the rocky and metallic material we stand on, the iron in our blood, the calcium in our teeth, the carbon in our genes were produced billions of years ago in the interior of a red giant star. We are made of star-stuff.” How delighted Aristotle would have been to hear this, for its implication, along with the discovery of subatomic particles, would have been very near enough to prove that his thoughts on scala naturae, or the great chain of being, that is that all matter is essentially of the same composition, but in differing forms, was for the most part, correct.

In order to describe the twin flame relationship, I find these ideas, together superimposed with the other synonymous terminology used to define said interconnection, and more specifically that of both,’ mirror soul,’ as well as that of, ‘soul connection,” to be the most satisfactory way to go about this task. The most basic illustration of the twin flame is through that of an idea of a kind of mirror to one’s soul. This is due to the fact that the thought behind the idea of a twin flame relationship, is that what we are basically witnessing is an old soul, so to speak, that has for lack of better words, split into two, occupying two different bodies, likened to the which was suggested long ago in Plato’s Symposium. So, in layman’s terms, the twin flame is like a kind of soul mate relationship jacked up on steroids; a relationship where both individuals share are of the same soul group, which is another ideology I will discuss later, the same energy, and almost mirror one another on every level, which in turn allows for the highest level of self-acceptance, understanding, and perhaps the closest we will come to finding unconditional love, in a kind of all-or-nothing cat and mouse chase, that is almost written in the stars.

Now, here, the emphasis here should be on the word mirror, especially when juxtaposed to the likes of one’s soul mate, or even an individual in one’s soul group. The difference, is found in the way, that those that act as one’s soul mate, which is a special relationship in and of itself, or those that are part of one’s soul group, are both generally of the same energy as you, but unlike the twin flame, they are not of you; that is, they have never been blended or amalgamated in unison with you. As such, while they may provide many great life-lessons that need to be learned, they will not be able to mirror you on the level that a twin flame can, and it is for this reason that these relationships become intimately romantic, or at least develop into one of the most intense friendships that one has ever experienced.

As the other half of ourselves, it is very often the case that there will be a kind of strong gravitational pull if you would towards this person; remember that gravitation and acceleration are essentially the same as Einstein noted, and in the same fashion, the spark the ignites this bond typically speaking is just as quick. More often than not, when this takes place it is accompanied by this sense of belonging, familiarity, and this underlying feeling of simply knowing as if I certain kind of recognition is taking place, if even on an unconscious level that is almost impossible to avoid.

In my own experience, I can testify that it was very much to this capacity. At the time that we met, we were engulfed by a sea of people, but at the time I saw that person in question, there was this intense magnetism, attraction, whatever you would like to call it as if in that crowd of people they were all that I could see, and it was as if immediately something inside myself was like. ‘that person,’ which I have hardly felt in any other circumstance. Sometimes there is a somewhat similar feeling, but it has never been quite as intense.

And this mirror-like quality is near impossible to avoid. It gives you the rawest and authentic reflection of one’s true nature, even if that is some kind of dark Dorian Grey like portrait. What I mean by this unapologetically authentic version of yourself, is simply making a point to the way that, as a part of our social conditioning, we have in many ways put up masks or walls, so to speak, that protect our ego, insecurities, our cultural, race, color, age, sense of logic, social status, and every other condition that we have been categorized under, ultimately to separate us from one another with the most acute machiavellian prowess. It is the most authentic self, in that the twin flame will be the individual that tears away these masks, walls, borders, and barriers that we have created over the course of our lifetime, allowing and permitting us to be our most authentic selves. And although it will come with almost as great a conflict as happiness, for we are essentially confronting ourselves in the process, they will make this happen, as if it were nothing. In the case of the twin flame relationship, they oft mirror our core values, our strengths, weaknesses, flaws, and most other attributes, to a point that can almost be intimidating. For instance, in my own particular case, I remember in my experience, conveying to this individual that they reflected to me all the insecurities I had, the parts of myself that were harder to accept, and in so doing, that in loving them in that person, it made it easier for me to love them in myself. In short, it is as if you are seeing yourself in another person. That being said, at this point, I find it best to highlight the signs that indicate that you’ve possibly met the twin flame in your life.

Signs You’ve Met Your Twin Flame

In related the signs of a twin flame relationship, one of the things that can not be reiterated enough, and creates for the terminology in soul connections, is that of the main components or ingredients behind this special kind of bond. This is due to the fact that by and large, they allow for the deepest level of connection on every level; that is a deeply embedded physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual connection. A twin flame relationship can occur at any point in one’s life journey, although it is usually when one least expects it, and when the timing is simply awful, but nonetheless these are the main indicators to keep your eye out for.

Just be yourself. They allow you to be your most unapologetically authentic self around them: Of all the signs of the twin flame relationship, I can not express efficiently enough as to the extent of exactly how important this one is, and in its own right, it acts as the most important, insofar as it acts as a catalyst or kind of overarching umbrella for each of the signs that follow. As I pointed out earlier, throughout our day-to-day lives, we tend to put on various different masks to acclimate ourselves to the roles that are expected of us as a part of our social conditioning. Perhaps, the individual has to put up a front of being more outgoing at work, when they are more introverted, introspective, or timid in their natural state. Just as we might put on a facade of enthusiasm or, a kind of fake it till you make it disposition in retail, when this too is another mask that may cover up some underlying depression or angst. However, this will not be the case for the individual in your life that is your true twin flame, for, like some kind of magician, they will come into your life, and make you comfortable to remove all masks, walls, borders, and barriers that have been created, and just be you; your most authentic self.

A House of Mirrors: Commonalities in Interests, Values, Strengths, Weaknesses, Hopes, Dreams, Aspirations, Fears, and Vulnerabilities: Like the particle previously mentioned, your twin flame is essentially the other half of you, and as such, they will mirror almost every last aspect of yourself back to you. Let’s say that your core values are love, spirituality, creativity, family, trust, loyalty, and intelligence, they too will share these principles, ethics, and morals in their heart. In fact, when searching for one’s twin flame, this is one of the most significant things to keep in mind, as your twin flame will have carry with them the very same values that you hold in your heart. In much the same way, this person in your life may have the same literary tastes as you do, or cherish the same type of art or media as you. Just as, in the same capacity, they will more likely than not, there will be a commonality of the things that you most fear, whether it is death, speaking in public, heights, losing control, or drowning, this too will be present. Both of your strengths and weaknesses will bounce off of one another, and you may be surprised that you’ve lived very similar lives that have created for these mental constructs in your mind, or even lived completely different lives, that have miraculously created for the same mentality in the both of you.

Your Strengths, Skillsets, and Passions will Compliment One Another: For the sake of describing this fairly straightforward symptom of the twin flame connection, I think it best to provide an illustration to highlight this aspect of the relationship. Let’s say that on the most basic level, creativity is your strong suit, and from this, your life has entailed going off into the arts and that you are a writer. At the same time, you are fascinated by the sciences and want to work in the genre of science-fiction. Your twin flame, on the other hand, maybe an aspiring physicist, or is involved in the scientific community to some degree and is fascinated in the very same areas of this topic as you are. Together, the two of you may enjoy bouncing ideas off one another or maybe go so far as to co-author a book together. Or, similarly, it may be the case that you are both deeply passionate about the arts, and the other individual creates for all a book’s artwork, that you would have otherwise been completely at a loss, trying to figure out how you would have accomplished this task without them. Generally speaking, this is due to the fact that when together, twin flames have a kind of mission or purpose together and are destined to impart something to this world during the course of their journey together.

The Chemistry Baby! In the case of the twin flame relationship, we are talking about the fusion of two people coming together in the most powerful of ways, and as such the inherent chemistry will be there almost right off the bat. And, typically speaking this will manifest itself in a variety of different ways. First and foremost, there will be a strong physical kind of magnetism between each other right from the jump. You will want to be in their physical presence at all times, and to have that tangible sense of touch on all levels, platonic, romantic, and otherwise, and it will be unlike anything that you have ever experienced. A kiss from the twin flame, is of the likes of fireworks being sent off that we’ve all seen in the movies and have even secretly longed for, and the sexual intimacy will be like two universes colliding, and will be completely out of this world.

Oh, the Intuition: Being with your twin flame will create for this sensation that almost overnight, you have suddenly developed some psychic understanding for this person. It’s the kind of thing when you and another person are thinking the same thing at the same time, or say something at the same exact time, to which we normally joke that for a minute there we must have been on the same wavelength or frequency, but in this case, it is nearly constant. In this way, when in a twin flame relationship, you may be surprised to come to find that you develop this kind of gut feeling that you just know what your partner is thinking, feeling, are experiencing, and not only that but that this feeling is reciprocated in that they can do the same regarding you. In addition to that, but it will seem as if you have formed some kind of telepathic link with this person, in that you won’t even have to communicate with your partner what is going on in your head, for they will easily be able to pick up on what you think or feel about a particular situation merely by just looking up at you.

A Sense of Idiosyncronicity — Feeling the Same Thing at the Same Time: In all honesty, the twin flame relationship can be one of the most challenging and difficult connections that you will ever have. On the most rudimentary level, this is due to the way in which it forces you to grow, mature, evolve, and analyze every last aspect of yourself, including the darker parts of the psyche that you may have otherwise never received such a call to inspect. That and the stages involved take on a kind of back and forth, cat and mouse chase, in an endless dance that ultimately leads to surrender as well as acceptance. That being said, another key characteristics of your mirror soul, is the fact that more often than not, you’ll both come to find that you both are feeling the same feelings regarding one another at around the same time. For instance, I am currently in the sixth stage of my own twin flame relationship, which is one of the most trying of the entire process which I will get to later. This included, however, a period of unwanted separation. This individual was concerned that various events would lead to us breaking apart, and that left them feeling this soul-crushing sensation. To quote them exactly, it felt in thinking that, that a part of their soul had been sucked out from their body. The next day, when her worries played themselves out, I too felt this horrible feeling, just several hours after she had. But this is consistent on every level. Together you’ll both experience the deepest pains, perhaps going through the five stages of grief in what seems like an hour, and the deepest sense of bliss, for simply being with this person is like heaven on earth. Just as the two of you may be separated by thousands of miles, this phenomenon will still for the most part be very consistent. There is also this whole notion that when the twin flame enters your life, that this sense of idiosyncracies will take place in the external world, such as seeing a lot of the angel number 11–11 all around you, although this is subject to an entirely separate discussion in and of itself.

Time will stop to a standstill: This sign basically speaks for itself. Nevertheless, you’ll come to find that when you are in the presence of your twin flame, that it gets to the point where it is as if time itself does not even exist between the two of you. The two of you will be so totally lost and engrossed in one another’s presence, enjoying and savoring every last moment as it is, in a total sense of bliss, that the hours will fly on by and it would have seemed to you but a blink of an eye. There you will be talking about everything and anything, and all of a sudden one of you will look at the time, and simply have nothing to say but, ‘where did the time go?” In this way, their company with you will be timeless, and almost to an exponentially and unprecedented degree. With them, you will truly understand what Einstein meant in that time is relative.

Life Lessons: Because your twin flame is literally the other half of you, and your better half at that, the process of this relationship will teach you most, if not all of life’s most valuable lessons. One minute, there you are thinking that you are whole onto your life and that nothing is missing, and then they will come into your life, and completely disrupt this entire notion. In understanding and accepting them on an unconditional level, as your mirror, the same is taking place within yourself. Through the twin flame relationship, you’ll learn the meaning of forgiveness; no matter how many times you fight, and to what degree, you will always forgive this person, and you’ll come to learn that as with anything if you struggle to forgive another, it is because you struggle to forgive yourself. In a normal relationship, when we go our separate ways, we tend to look for the flaws, deficiencies, and just about everything we don’t like in another as to emotionally distance ourselves from what we once had. This is nearly impossible with the twin flame. You can look, and try to find these things, to an almost endless degree, but in each case, you’ll come to find that you can not possibly do so, on any level, because all those flaws, deficiencies, shortcomings, and everything you could possibly dislike about that person, exist, and are present within yourself. To reject it in them is to reject it in themselves. In the same way, you will grow from this person, in just about every encounter, and learn volumes about empathy, compassion, acceptance, surrender, and the very meaning of unconditional love; to a certain extent, it will be as if you yourself become love, in considering everything that the other that is in yourself needs, wants, and desires.

We’re not in a Relationship; You are my Everythingship: Another way that the twin flame relationship will differ unlike any other that you have ever experienced is in the multidimensional nature that it takes on. This person will be so much more than just a friend, or lover in your life. They will take on many, almost countless different forms. There is the saying that you’re my everything, or that you are everything to me, and this is certainly the case in this specific union. The individual that is the twin flame will be your comforter, teacher, student, enemy, and everything else in-between; it is almost endless to think of all the different roles that this person will take on in the course of your lifetime.

There is a sense of recognition, a sense of home — They know you better than anyone else

This one is fairly self-explanatory.

The Stages of a Twin Flame Relationship:

All life is circles, or perhaps fractal really. We are surrounded by infinite cycles, patterns, or seasons if you will, that perform their own dance, and that repeat them off into Infinitum, at the very least it would seem, and that has created for such human constructs as the Fibonacci sequence, as is presented in the numerical order of 1,1,2,3,5, and so on and so forth. The most noticeable is that presented in the circle of life, in the life-death cycle that is one of the most inevitable truths that we all must be subject to. In this way, the twin flame relationship is not exempt from this kind of universal law as it were. From what we can observe, the twin flame relationship typically undergoes a fairly consistent seven-stage process that varies in scope and duration on an individual basis. In some cases, this process may be short-lived, and others may take a lifetime to play out. It is also worth mentioning, that the twin flame is very individualized, and speaks directly to the heart of you and your twin flame, and what is best for both of you. Nonetheless, the following is what can generally be expected from said twin flame relationship:

1. An Insatiable Desire: Searching

Have you ever seen one of those old Godzilla movies or even the new ones for that matter? Usually, in the versions where there are multiple monsters that Godzilla has to fight, these have a tendency for being mates of one another; again, think of that particle communicating to another at speeds faster than the speed of light. Following their introduction, both of these creatures let out a kind of mating call that acts as a sort of beacon to let the other know where it is at, and where it is heading. To a varying degree, the searching stage of the twin flame is sort of like this.

We’ve all heard of soul mates, and that certain someone that we are destined to be with. As a hopeless romantic that wears their heart on their sleeve, I can not emphasize how intense this feeling has almost always resonated within my being. The thought of finding living one of those fairytale-like relationships that you occasionally hear about; you know the one’s about the high school sweethearts that lived their lives together, and even died on the same day as if the whole thing was predestined.

As with most things in our lives, a good portion of our lives is predicated upon the beliefs that we have about ourselves, others, and the world around us, in psychology this is referred to as a mental schema, which is a kind of mental map or blueprint that the psyche creates for in response to the experiences. The result of this, unfortunately, is the fact that if we believe this, that this idea is a kind of fairy-tale or something that is seemingly impossible to have, then it becomes exactly that, and that is the reality we create for ourselves. Consequently, in our relationships, what results from this is that we receive what we think we deserve and often settle for something that is comfortable, but nowhere near the idea that we’ve had in the back of our minds. That perfect someone.

In the searching stage, the individual, both parties involved actually, take that idea to another level. In other words, they go off of that urge, that hope, that belief that there is their other half out there, and they will stop at nothing to find them in their internal as well as their external world; it becomes a passionate quest that is fueled by the deepest most insatiable urge to find the deepest level of love at whatever cost. And so, they take to and accept this kind of hero’s quest as it were; take to writing about it, studying it, researching it, talking about it, and everything else in-between to find it. During this search, things become very intimately selective. Each potential date becomes less randomized, and begin to take the form of a kind of interview, audit, or what have you. These are the things that you are looking for; where do the commonalities lie, does this person have the same values as me, what do we share and have in common, do they love bluebirds as I do, or for whatever reason do they have the most bizarre obsession with the Titanic, and on any level can I see the reflection, the mirror, the connection in this other person. But in more cases then not, like with the mating call in Godzilla, words are almost unnecessary because it is felt, almost on a cellular level. Basically, there is a search, for the deepest love you have ever known, and it takes place on a very conscious level, albeit sometimes, in the earlier stages, this may be unconscious. In a way, it is a way of preparing the self for what is to come with this challenging yet highly rewarding relationship.

2. First Encounters:

There are many different names or ways of describing this next stage of the process. Some call it the awakening, for it is when you realize or come to awareness as to who this individual is. Others still may call it something along the lines of the first glimpse, for similar reasons.

Simply said, this is the stage in the process where the two parts of a whole, the two bodies belonging to one soul, the twin flame, meet each other for the first time. More often than not, this is a kind of random experience, that seems as fated, as it does unexpected, and even when looking back on it, as if the whole thing should have been unlikely; like some kind of anomalous blip that stands out in the backdrop of your mind for that very reason.

For instance, my twin flame loved the way that I would relate to her the likelihood and the statistics against our meeting as if the odds had always been stacked against our favor to do so, and yet by some miracle we did. And this was for a plethora of reasons. One variable was based on the fact that during the time I was in college, and my going out, on any occasion, was as few and far between and next to nil as they come. I just didn’t do that in those days; I was either working or had my face buried in a book; one or the other, I simply did not have time for anything else. To this day, I still do not know what it was within me that was even tempted to do so, let alone to consciously make said decision, but I am thankful that I did. The location was one that I never, and I mean never frequent, and as I’ve noted before there was a sizable crowd, and so many other factors that, and still on the day that we first met, it was like this great force, and most powerful magnetic force did draw us to one another. And yes, this meeting, this first encounter, there is almost an immediate recognition, this odd sense of knowing that this person is going to play a monumental role in your life. It is also something that is felt in the other and is probably something that both of you will express or talk about during this encounter. It is worth noting that the meeting does not always have to be physical. There are tales of twin flames who have claimed that they had had dreams of this other person. The said person stood out to me because there was a sense of familiarity as if I had dreamed of them. In a location of all worldly temptation, all I see is you. Is not that strange? Still, this is only the beginning of things to come.

3. Trials and Tribulations:

With great power, comes great responsibility. Really, I just wanted to slip in a kind of Marvel, Spider-man cameo with that one, while hinting at some kind of South Park life lesson in there, but there is some meaning behind it. Upon the initial meeting, there will be an almost ineffable period of the most blissful experiences that one could have; literally like heaven on earth. For a period after this beautiful union, there will be a time of great joy. It may seem almost like the Nicolas Sparks, Notebook kind of fairytale that you had always longed for, during which may include the two of you realize that you are both simply smitten and simply put, crazy in love with the other person. But what is any great epic without conflict, struggle, strife, or something to fight for?

Once the period of great merriment wanes down, the next noteworthy stage in this long going process includes another sort of audit. This incredible new person has entered your life, and you love them more than anything you have ever known. Now that these intense love feelings have declined some, the two of you analyze the dynamics of this relationship to the very last letter. Together, the two of you will push the envelope, so to speak, and assess what role this person will have in your life, and what the obstacles, limitations, and other impediments are that would prevent that from happening. Boundaries and borders are established, and in this initial stage of deep-seated love, one that involves complete transparency of self from both parties may create for some general conflict and friction between the two parties. Because this is a complete and total love of self and the other, what is experienced, is as we fight in accepting the other, their demons, their shortcomings, and everything else, as this conflict is created with the other, we are at the same time at conflict with our selves, fighting with ourselves as it were, and this space creates for the next phase in the twin flame relationship.

4. Stagnation: A World in Chaos

Red alert. We have reached DEFCON 5. Place the yellow cautionary take, and insert what warning label you will here. It is here that the real work behind the twin flame relationship takes place and where the greatest challenge takes place. Also known as the crisis phase, the stage of the connection is enough to completely flip one’s world over on its head, all with the added difficulty that it may ultimately lead to a heart-shattering separation, even though we are never truly separated from our twin flame. Referring back to the statement that my twin once made, in that it felt as if a part of their soul was being ripped out, which I too felt, this may be one of the most unpleasant feelings that you will ever face if you can push through this phase, that once again its brought up by the previous stage and the conflicts that arise, this stage serves its purpose in that facing all the fears, insecurities, demons, and all other aspects of the self for the most complete level of unconditional love together, it acts as a foundation for creating for a longer and deeper connection with said individual.

At a glance, this stage also piggybacks off of the previous one, because in evaluating what role this individual is going to play in your life, and in both of your futures, this underlining sense of worry, angst, and insecurity begins to develop regarding the connection the two of you share. In a way, you rightly hold this person on a kind of pedestal or throne and value them as this precious person in your life, which you should. Again, quoting the twin flame in my life, ‘my greatest fear is a life without you,’ which again was a feeling that we both share. Ironically enough, in the said trial stage, these aspects of ourselves that we have not ourselves confronted, are the very source that creates for this sense of fear. Naturally, they love you for who you are, but still, they cause for this sense of, this person can not possibly love me exactly as I am, for these faults, and so on and so forth. Generally speaking, anything can set this crisis stage into motion. This is the most difficult stage because even though there is a sort of unheard-of sense of compatibility, connection, and chemistry between the two on all levels, it is almost normal that this period leads to a separation. This is due to the way that it calls for us to challenge these parts of ourselves that we struggle with on such an intense level, and not only that but in the presence of another person, which can be an incredibly frightening notion, and as such, is enough to push the other away, out of fear of rejection. Don’t worry, if both parties get this together, it creates a bond like any other, and one that is stronger than ever before.

5. A Game of Cat and Mouse:

Like any stage, this is as near to inevitable as death itself, and always comes directly after this stage of chaos. In Korea, there is a term that roughly translates into muldoung, albeit I do feel I spelled that wrong, but nevertheless, it refers to a kind of cat and mouse chase between lovers, which epitomizes this part of the twin flame relationship. Another terminology that also refers to this stage speaks of a kind of back and forth relationship of chaser and runner, in which both individuals play both roles at some time or another during this period of their journey together.

The reason for this sort of illustration has to do with the fact that as part of this separation, which for both feels as if they have lost a part of themselves, there is usually one partner who gets scared off by this process, and they become the runner, running desperately away from what they have to confront, their feelings, and the truth of the love that they have for another. They become overwhelmed by this intense process that they have gone through, and so they flee from it, either out of fear of rejection, or ironically enough of the very love they are capable of having, it almost sounds too good to be true, and they don’t want to fall short of their expectations and the life they would like to live with this person, and so they run.

Conversely, the opposite party reacts in the exact opposite manner. They want to take this challenge head-on and fight for the love that they feel that they and this individual in their life deserves. This is the quest I signed up for, and nothing will stand in my way. I knew what I was getting into in the first place. So naturally, they see the other half of themselves, their twin flame, and the love of their life dart off into the night, and naturally, they can’t help but be so inclined to chase after them, to the end of the world and back if they have to, even if it seems crazy, which is something that crosses their might, but hey, they’re crazy in love after all, so it must be right. It is worth noting that the runner, or the individual that distances themselves will be in one of the deepest levels of pain imaginable, knowing right well what they are running from. It is also for this reason that the chaser will continue on in their noble fight for them, believing beyond a shadow of a doubt, that it is all worth it. This stage will only cease with complete surrender and acceptance from both individuals. On the one hand, accepting their place in running or chasing, and vice versa from what their partner has been going through.

6. White Flags: The Ultimate Submission

It is in this stage of the twin flame relationship that we see one of the wondrous ways that this bond allows us to learn some of life’s most valuable lessons. The lesson learned here applies to almost all aspects of life. First and foremost, there is a realization of the power of surrender. This idea is at the forefront of almost any religious pedagogy; surrender to a higher power, and this is no exception. At the same time, through this means, we see how ultimately, separation is but an illusion. Even if we feel as if we have lost a part of ourselves at times, no amount of time or space can separate us from the people that we love. But most importantly, it reveals to us how, even though we try so hard to create for a sense of control in our lives, even in our relationships, we never truly are. And as such, this sort of need that you need to create for some control over the relationship, to ensure that it lasts and lives on dissipates. It goes away.

That being said, it is important, no crucial to understand that for this level of sheer submission, fold, or surrender to take places, involves both parties making a conscious effort together to look at and really analyze those issues that created for the crisis and separation and to face those challenges together. This happened because, so what are we going to do about it? I still feel the same way about you as I always have, but I still feel that sting, that pain that we both shared. I’m scared too. I and my twin flame had this thing, where we could daze almost mindlessly into the pupils of the others’ eyes, completely fascinated by the way we could see each other, but at the same time see ourselves reflected in them. This is key. It is crucial because again, it cannot be reiterated enough. What brought on the painful crisis, separation, and chase had to do with the whole notion of having a twin or mirror connection. You looked into their eyes, and like in my Picture of Dorian Grey analogy, you saw in them yourself, and all the negative feelings, thoughts, and all the darker parts of you and your psyche, and pardon my French, but it right well scared the living shit out of you. Not only do I have to face this for myself, but you might also have thought, but I will have to do it twice over for the person that I love more than anything.

7. The Twin Flame Reunion: Unity or Wholeness

This is the return to Eden. What it’s all about. In a way, you have found a love of the likes of Dante and his Beatrice as he periled his well through the seven layers of hell. In the same light, you have returned from the hero’s journey with the elixir of life. Through the tumultuous excursion, the two of you have quite literally taken a journey to the very core of your being, to the center of soul so to speak, learning not only to have the most profound unc0nditional love for the self but for the other. In this sense, you have in a way become love. All we what is to love, and be loved, to be understood, and acceptance, and this is the return to such a place. The self-understanding that you will have gained from this process will be unprecedented in stark juxtaposition to anything you have ever known, and in coming to that point, you will see exactly how much this other individual means to you, and what is possible for the two of you. Through these trials and tribulations, you know that the bond the two of you share can weather any storm.

As such, there will be a newfound kind of homeostasis in the relationship, combined with the deepest level of awareness, understanding, self-knowledge, as well as the most penetrating sense of contentment as well as relief. The two of you have made it; you have found the type of love that has always been written in your heart. This union is most definitely physical in its nature, and the union it speaks of is in regard to the degree of wholeness and completeness the two of you will share in each other’s company, to which I will finish in saying, that is all I could want or ask for anyone. Cheers to finding the twin flame in your life, and doing all it takes to weather the storm.